Coaching Mastery
A two day Coaching Workshop based on Clean Language, Clean Questions & Provocative Coaching
Clean language & Clean questions
(My source and credit Sue Knight based on the work of David Grove)
David Grove, unique psychotherapeutic approach, experience and style made him one of the most skilful and innovative therapists. He developed clinical methods for resolving clients’ traumatic memories, He realised that many clients naturally described their symptoms in metaphor and found that when he enquired about these using their exact words, their perception of the trauma began to change. This led him to create Clean Language, a way of asking questions of clients’ metaphors, which neither contaminate nor distort them.
This elegant and powerful questioning technique opens a door to a new way of thinking about how people’s minds actually work.
With Clean Language, you’ll be equipped to:
- Gather rich information about yourself and others – knowledge that is usually just beyond conscious awareness
- Gain insight into people’s language, motivation and beliefs
- Improve communication because you can literally speak someone’s language
- Build motivation and cooperation as you help people make sense to each other
- Avoid unwitting bias and ‘leading the witness’ using Clean’s technique of profoundly respectful listening and questioning
- Help people to change by discovering astonishing new resources from inside themselves
And ‘Clean’ is not just confined to coaching. It is a way of listening and giving others attention in ways that most people rarely experience in life. It is a non-directive style that allows the recipient to discover their own truth. I go so far as to say that it is with a ‘Clean’ approach that we can increase understanding and acceptance of difference in the world. And what does it mean to be clean? Well, it means to bring as little of your own ‘stuff’ into the dialogue. As David Grove himself said “The ‘I’ ness of the facilitator should virtually cease to exist” Easy to say .. very challenging to do.
What will you learn ?
How to…
- Get into a state of naive curiosity and ‘not knowing’
- Decide when to use a ‘clean’ approach
- Build and remain in a state of rapport as you question in this way
- Use this conversationally rather than clinically
- Be ‘clean’ in everyday situations where you want to truly listen and enhance understanding
- Use this approach to elicit metaphors for life
- Use the approach to enrich goal setting and the achievement of those goals in ways that are meaningful
- Develop a style of being with others that they find attractive
- Support others in ways that are non-directive and confidence building
Provocative Coaching @ Coaching with Humour
(My source and credit Sue Knight based on Provocative Therapy by Frank Farrelly)
The aim of coaching with humour is to change state, to reframe an issue, to create a new perspective, to raise awareness of patterns, to enable the client to laugh at themselves. And designed to provoke a healing response Sue Knight
- A framework for the strategies -> Surface structure, Deletion Distortion Generalisation -> Deep structure
- Vital ingredients - An attitude of rapport, trust and love. A twinkle in the eye. An intention of raising awareness. A goal of enabling the client to find a congruent state.
- The overall strategy - to look for the Achilles heel (the incongruent state) usually in the non – verbal behaviour
- Key Provokers - Money, Sex, Death
- Some of the strategies - Say the unexpected Give outrageous/crazy suggestions Give reasons for keeping the problem state “What’s wrong with that?” Use the key provokers Paint the worst scenario
- And Finally - ‘Laughter is carbonated holiness’ Anne Lamott Bird by Bird Enjoy … keep the twinkle in the eye .. the care from the heart .. and ability to speak the truth.
